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The most important story you’ll ever tell

Here's the secret goal of just about every therapist I've ever met: getting clients to change the voice inside their heads. They call it an inner monologue. The monologues say things like: my stomach looks like a bag of under-cooked pizza dough. My teeth are yellow. I have more wrinkles than a circus elephant. Why can't I think of anything interesting to talk about? My writing sucks. I need more friends. Dayton counselor Meredith Montgomery calls the monologue your mental tape. It starts playing the moment you wake up and doesn't stop until you fall asleep. Montgomery has an exercise that helps clients see just how absurd these tapes can be: pretend your inner tape is actually an external person. Now, imagine that person following you around for a day and telling you...

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